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John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
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Tumultuous relationships usually leave a large residue of unfinished emotional business (Published May 21, 2013)


My mother died a year and a half ago. I grieved her when she died and think about her often still. Lately though, her death has been weighing on me like it did when she first died. I dream of her and try to talk to her but I seem to be awakened just when I start to say something important to her. I know I have some unresolved feelings, as we had a somewhat tumultuous relationship. But I can't seem to talk to her when I'm awake. I just can't get myself to do it. Why is that? And why did this creep up on me so long after she died? Thank you in advance for your time.

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